Young Melanated Women/Melanated Woman You Are Kind, You Is Smart, You Is Important Too

I just read a very interesting article.

I must admit it was slightly concerning, though.

In this article, there was dissatisfaction with Lil Nås X not receiving an award for his particular body of work.

Somehow, Blue Ivy got engaged in the mix.

No, I do not know Blue Ivy personally.

However, the way society has bullied this young lady since she has been born is too familiar.

That is why I mention the importance of diversity within the diversity.

For me, diversity within diversity means even though you might have a melanated individual, there should be more diversity as far as the different life experiences and different types of melanated people.

You know melanated people are allowed to have different realities and experiences, right?

That also includes without asking for those who attempt to dominate permission….

Within the context of this article, I wanted to touch on the importance of seeing more images of young black women being supported by their parents and others in the community versus always seeing images of young black women being thrown out into society.

I guess maybe that’s one reason I always liked the video and song “Keep Trying” by Groove Theory.

So here’s my theory…

I find it quite interesting how when these same young women that were thrown out into the wolves of society alot of these young melanated women come back leading the pack.

Now all of a sudden it’s that’s my baby.

In certain instances, because of the way young melanated women have been treated within their own culture, I can see how it makes them seek other cultures in order to find acceptance.

I think that’s one reason there are some individuals who, even though they are black they feel Caucasians can do no wrong.

It’s also possible that is another reason when the conversation comes up about Caucasian accountability.

Sometimes Caucasians don’t even have to defend themselves because they know their “black” friend will do it for them.

Maybe it’s a loyalty thing…

However, maybe that will be another article for another day.

I’ve even noticed how there is an adultification of some of our young black girls.

This also includes having young black girls marching in the front row during certain types of protests.

My question is who is protesting for young black girls?

I’m not talking about organizations who use young black girls for photo opps only to later on turn out as an opp after the cameras are long gone.

It’s kind of sad we put all of this pressure on young melanated women and girls only for society to turn around and act surprised and say that today’s young girls act to grown..

I feel before we as a society can say that we also have to look at what we put some of our young melanated girls/women through.

I think because there is not enough balance being shown of young black girls being looked out for, such as images or stories of young melanated women who can go to their parents to ask for or recieve help, especially financially or even being able to get a job position with a little help from their parent’s networking connects.

When we as a society see it, there is a slight envy…

Sometimes that envy can even come from males who also have the same complexion, which I think in certain circumstances further pushes for some young melanated women to seek acceptance from outside cultures.

Some things don’t even need to be said..

You can tell by an individual’s treatment and actions toward a person how that individual truly feels.

What is even more interesting is sometimes I feel that we as a society forget that eventually these “little girls” grow up.

Unfortunately for some melanated women, another set of conformity politics begins as they go through the stages of womanhood.

Hair politics- As if melanated women are supposed to miraculously forget the things that were said to them about their hair as a child.

To me, that is why it is laughable when you have dudes (who are not barbers or cosmetologists) having whole ass therapy podcast sessions on black women and weave.

Yet they continue to deceive.

Making it seem like all the world’s issues is because of a black woman’s weave.

Instead of being concerned about things that can make them astute, they are concerned about a black woman’s hair roots.

Let’s not forget about

Respectability politics- As if the melanated woman is supposed to forget about the conflicting messages she received about being called a hoe.

You know, if she liked boys by a certain age, she was called “fast” (a code word down south for hoe).

Yet, if she DIDN’T LIKE boys by a certain age, she was asked if she was into “womenz” (a code word down south for lesbian).

If you want a visual, please watch the comedy set Rickey Smiley did on bull daggers..he is not lying…lol.

But anywhoo, back to the initial subject…

WOMENZ !!!!!!

Let’ s talk about SEX baby…

Shout out to Salt N Pepa…as well as the fabulous Spinderella…

Pregnancy Politics- As if melanated girls don’t get shamed for being pregnant even though folks act like the young girls got pregnant all by themselves (sideye).

Only to be shamed later on in life if they are NOT pregnant by a certain age.

Let’s not forget how just like in Lion King’s The Circle of Life

the young woman is asked yet AGAIN in her later years if she is sure she is not a lesbian.

Now, this is despite being asked in her younger years if she was a lesbian before, she even knew what a lesbian was.

Yes, unfortunately, these types of questions have been asked and are still being asked by the heterosexual community towards young melanated girls before they even hit puberty.

Oooooh, chilllllddddddd…. somebody please summon

The Five Stairsteps…

Since we are having the “conversation” well, at least the article conversation and since I am a stimulator of thought…

Let’s stimulate…..

I’m about to go there …..

Are You ready?

Anyone who knows me (like that) knows that I can’t stand how the older lady (Ms. Sophie) did those two women in Brewster’s Place.

I’ve always wondered why nobody found it weird that Ms. Sophie was committing voyeurism.

That combined with the scary ass background music when she kept saying I seeent cha….

I know it might seem slightly off subject, however in a way it’s not.

It shows how even when certain melanated women are minding their own black ass business as well as businesses, there is an issue.

But anywhoo…

Back to the respectability politics,

I’ve also seen ….

Cussing Politics- I find it quite interesting how, when melanated women are cussing for others’ rights..

No one seems to have an issue with her cussing.

I’ve seen grown tail sheriffs ask the nearest black woman how you want to handle this when something pops off.

If you don’t believe me, go to your local library…lol

However, when the melanated woman utilizes her magnificent cussing superpowers in the only way a black woman can… for HER RIGHTS, that benefits her.

NOWWWWWWWW, suddenly it’s an issue, and she is supposed to be more ladylike…

Slightly off on another subject, I also find it quite interesting how Mo’Nique (the comedian) could get more support when she spoke on bonnets, yet it is crickets when she speaks on contracts or on WOMEN’S RIGHTS to equal pay.

But hey that’s another subject for another day… Right?

What’s even more interesting is even though there are plenty of melanated women who are lady like and NEVER cuss, it seems like they also get mistreated too.

What are the odds of that?

I think at some point society is going to have to look at itself.

The melanated woman or melanated girl will no longer be a scapegoat.

It is written….

Know The Hook (TU)

Written and Conceived By:

-DaSh’e

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