Sky’s The Limit and Childhood Bullying Pt.1

One thing that I notice while having the “hard” conversations is how easy it is for the conversation to derail.

I notice that sometimes; the conversation is derailed on purpose sometimes it is not.

I’m also learning that it is important if we as a society truly want long-lasting transformation we have to learn how to address certain conversations separately.

I notice whenever Black people are trying to process racism and the way Caucasians have played their part in causing trauma somehow someway SOMEBODY (in my Jesse Jackson voice) yells out, “What about the black people?”… I’m debating if I want to use a Blazing Saddles reference.

So in the mean time I’ll leave that up to the reader..

Anyway, back to the initial conversation..lol

They then begin to name the situations that have been done to them by people that look like them.

They even quote Ms. Zora Neale Hurston “All my skinfolk ain’t kinfolk” or the edited version “All skinfolk ain’t kinfolk”.

Now don’t get me wrong, I can acknowledge that for some black people that is true.

However, I do feel that if the intention is to truly heal and we are being authentic in the process, we have to get to the root of a situation; to do this, it is important to do it layer by layer.

This also applies to conversations as well.

So, to me that means if Black people are processing and addressing Caucasians and their behavior and the harm they have caused it is important to separate that conversation from the “kinfolk” conversation.

Now please stay in context with what I am communicating.

The “kinfolk” conversation is no more or no less important… If anything in the bigger scheme of things it is another part of the healing process.

It is so much part of the healing process it deserves to have a conversation.

Separately.

Written and Conceived By:

DaSh’e

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