Ms. C. Delores Tucker

Oprah Winfrey

Mo’Nique

Ms. Fannie Lou Hammer

Anita Hill

These are the particular women that are coming to mind at this time…..

To be honest any melanated woman who has a differing opinion has started to come to the forefront.

Especially, those who decide to be of a different political persuasion that lay throughout the nation.

With that being said a particular quote comes to mind:

“I consider myself a crayon
I might not be your favorite color
But one day you’ll need me to complete your picture”.

-Lauryn Hill

So, as the world turns and life continues to life.
It’s quite interesting to observe certain types of strife.

As I have gotten older.
I’m realizing that when it comes to certain archetypes of melanated women there is a difference in the way that they are treated.

With that being said.
I am also realizing that it is important when it comes to certain “controversies” involving certain archetypes of melanated women.

It is important to ask :

Is this particular woman REALLY an issue?
Or does this particular melanated woman just have a differing opinion?

You know melanated women are allowed to have different opinions/options right?

Maybe that’s a rite within itself …

Anywhoo…

I feel that it is important NOT to take on the issues of people who don’t like you.

As well as NOT to take on the issues of certain individuals who only like you when it is convenient for the causes that only benefit them.

I’ve also noticed that sometimes certain types of males will attempt to triangulate women and use certain women as shields against other women.

However, once the woman who was used as a shield decides to change her mind on certain subject matters.

That woman is no longer “praised” and now she is deemed as difficult aka having a different opinion.

So then, another set of questions must come in:

Is it that this particular woman is difficult?

Or is it that the individual calling her “difficult” is having a difficult time trying to control her?

At this point…Janet Jackson’s “Control” song is popping up on my playlist.

I didn’t get it in the 80’s…..

Just like I didn’t get the chair dance routine in her “Pleasure Principle” video… Due to using a dining room wooden chair.

I think I’m getting it now…

Just like I’m realizing why Janet used a metal folding chair instead of a wooden chair.

But throughout the bumps, bruises, and splinters you get back up.

What I find so fascinating about Janet Jackson’s career is how her song “Control” played out in “real/reel” life…

I feel that Ms. Jackson (if you nasty)….

Had her own unique style of singing about navigating sexuality, especially as a melanated woman, and the different forms of exploration that it entails.

This did not stop in her 20’s.

This continues to play out as she goes through the different stages of womanhood.

One of those stages played out on the Super Bowl stage.

What was so crazy about the whole Janet Jackson Super Bowl performance was after a certain individual placed HIS HAND on HER BREAST and snatched off the cloth from once again HER BREAST.

He as well as the rest of society acted sooooo shocked that..

GASP….

A melanated glazed nipple was staring right back at his ass.

It was probably cold.

However, that is another subject matter for another day.

It is so amazing to me to see as long as melanated women are staying within the lines it’s okay.

However, when she decides to create her OWN lines.

She is told how she needs to compromise.

So I am learning that when certain melanated women are speaking out.

It is important to ask what is she TRULY talking about.

Sometimes, the women you think are against you are actually for you…

Written and Conceived

And

Dipped In Love,

DaSh’e

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