I know it’s been a long time…

Since I gave you a dope writing to vibe to…

Shout out to Aaliyah and Timbaland…

So let’s address some of these issues now so that they can stop coming up again.

Let’s discuss this “angry” black woman trope.

Which for some odd reason only seems to come up when it DOESN’T benefit “certain” types of people.

In my opinion anger is a normal emotion that I’m sure women EVERYWHERE of every different race and nationality has experienced before.

Somebody please cue in Lloyd -Girls Around The World…

So, let’s be real some issues that women deal with especially melanated women makes you wanna holla.

Shoutout to Marvin Gaye…

However, I’m going to try my best to stay on the subject matter today.

The “angry” black woman trope…

As I continue to shed the layers that really don’t belong to me.

It gets me into a Johnny Nash mode.

You know I am in the process of seeing clearly now that the rain is gone.

For, some reason when I’m driving in the rain and I turn my windshield wipers on that song comes on.

The song even pops up when I am going through the car wash and forget to put the car in neutral.

However, if I’m truly neutral, maybe the rain signifies……

The lieeeees !

The windshield wipers represent the wiping away of the lies and those who despise….

Yet still like Ms.Maya Angelou say We Rise !

Yes, that was paraphrased but flow with me..

We don’t have to be naughty to nature.

We can learn how to FEEL her FLOW…

I mean let’s be real…

She has been here a looooooong time.

We don’t have to take on other people’s property!

We can continue to build our own…

Because guess what?

Everything’s gonna be alright.

However, sometimes we have to look at the writings on the wall and see if they are going to do right.

At, this point in my life I think it is important to realize that if there are certain types of people who are filled with particular biases towards you what makes you think they will write good things about you?

So anywhoo… back to the main ingredient.

Melanated women, black women, we come in so many shades maybe that’s why some try to throw shade.

Even though melanated women are so diverse ….

Yeah some of us curse…

Some of us nurse….

But hey that’s the amazing things about the Universe…

If you are not mindful, you can get immersed and for some they might have to go head and take that hearse.

But back to my verse…

Of how amazing melanted women can be and still be diverse.

So with this illustrious di-verrrr-sit-tttt-yyyy.

I was having a conversation with someone about the Popeye’s lady and told them before I heard of Tabitha Brown.

I remembered the Popeye’s lady.

So for me when I see women like the Popeye’s lady (which I’m sure wasn’t written on her birth certificate) However, how else would we recall her?

Anywhoo…

So out of respect I found her name, and her name is Ms. Diedre Henry.

She matters.

So, when we bring up the names of Ms. Tabitha Brown and Ms. Henry I am pretty sure “angry” does not come to mind.

At all.

To be honest, I know plenty of women in my culture who are amazing with warm smiles who give great advice, recipes, some even have degrees.

I even have some reading my writings right now who are looking at the grammar but are willing to NOT MISS the message by looking for the grammar mistakes…

They know what’s at stake.

These melanated women can look at the bigger scheme of things because they know that there are those who will scheme with the best grammar to create error.

On purpose.

Unfortunately, there are certain individuals who are designed that way.

However, I am so grateful for the women in my community who aren’t that way and make a way for others in their actions and deeds as well as help those who are in need.

So, that is why when I hear certain individual’s who parrot the trope about “angry” black women.

I tend to have a Sho’nuff moment…

Not the Tela sho’ nuff…

I’m talking about the Last Dragon…. Sho’nuff…

You know the part when Leroy was eating popcorn with chopsticks.

In, the front row with a big ass hat on like it wasn’t anybody sitting behind him.

Hey when you know …

You know….

Since I’m on the subject shout out to the actor that played Leroy.

In, his own way he showcased that there are melanated men that are diverse as well.

However, let’s get back to the lies that they tell.

I find it quite interesting that even when melanated women show joy somehow or another they still get “placed” or lets just say certain people ATTEMPT to place melanated women who smile or show joy into another category.

The so-called mammy.

In this circumstance.

I’m learning that certain words that have a history of being used to hurt can also cause further harm.

Somebody please cue in the Al Green foot stomp…

How is it that women who bring joy, love and happiness and recipes mixed with soothing comforts to this thing we call society get treated in such a disrespectful manner?

I mean really what has women like Ms. Henry and Tabitha Brown done besides show love?

With that being said even when I listen to the stories of Ms. Pat and Tiffany Haddish and ALL THE things that they have dealt with especially in their childhood.

It is a part of me that is simply amazed at the fact that after all they have been through they turned their pain into power.

Not only are Ms. Pat and Tiffany amazing comedians but they are also amazing story tellers with life lessons attached to it.

These two women have an amazing way of utilizing their life experience to help and warn others especially Ms. Pat.

Ms. Pat took a bullet to her tiddy….

Lived to tell about it.

What’s sad is as you can see they STILL get talked about.

I’m talking about Ms. Pat and Tiffany.

Not Ms. Pat’s tiddy.

So tell me where is the hypocrisy?

( In my Oswald Bates voice)

So, it “befuddles” me …

Yes, that’s a word…lol

That when a melanated woman shows a thing called emotions..

Be it anger…

Be it joy…

There still seems to be a problem…

At this point I don’t think it’s Houston.

So my question to you is…..

What’s the REAL problem?

Written and Conceived

And

Dipped In Love,

DaSh’e

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