Contributions Until/Are Not Monolithic Until/College Hill

I am a couple of episodes in watching the rebooted version of College Hill.

Yes, it brings back certain memories when the show first began back in the early 2000s.

Yes, I’m looking for my white-t as we speak…lol

I guess that is also one of the many benefits of getting older.

After gaining a bit more experiences in life you see things differently or catch things you may have missed while you were younger.

For me it can be like that with certain movies and t.v. shows.

I think that depending on what your mindset is what you will see or get out of a movie or t.v. show.

Maybe “The Dramatics” was on to something….

However, back to the subject matter…

I was watching Stacey Dash and even though I feel that there is something deeper going on.

I appreciate the element that she brings to the show.

I’ve heard off and on that “black” people are not monolithic however it seems whenever a melanated woman has a difference in opinion somehow the monolithic conversation ceases.

I have noticed that Stacey Dash is not the only melanated woman that this happens to, I’ve observed this happen to women like:

Chrissette Michelle

Oprah Winfrey

Mo’nique (The Comedian)

Ms. Phylicia Rashad

Whoopi Goldberg and many other melanated women.

What’s even more interesting is despite all the contributions these women have made individually as well as to the collective.

All they have to do is have ONE difference of opinion and it’s like things come out of the woodworks.

I’ve even seen situations where women who have a different opinion are MORE ostracized than the individual who was actually in question.

But back to Stacey Dash…

I think a documentary on melanated women who have felt bullied by the black community and sometimes ostracized from the black community would be an amazing concept to explore.

With this documentary it wouldn’t be “pointing fingers” at the black community but pointing inward towards healing within the black community.

To really showcase that in context we might not be monolithic however we can be monolithic in providing that safe space for each other despite differences of opinion.

I can’t help but notice especially with certain talking points and certain political associations there is a certain archetype that comes into play.

I’ve noticed that certain individuals that have been bullied within the black community are sometimes utilized for nefarious purposes.

Sometimes knowingly sometimes not.

However, I feel that if certain aspects of the black community would engage in having the bullying conversation, amazing things can continue to happen.

I guess maybe that is why I appreciate individuals and organizations that implement safe spaces and talk about bullying in school settings because unfortunately child bullies can grow up to become adult bullies.

I’ve seen how bullying can play out from the school setting as children into the workplace settings as adults.

Even though I’ve had conversations with people who say otherwise and love to say “You, see I turned out fine”.

I look at them and graciously thank them for proving my point.

However, back to exploring….

I think it is important to explore some of the reasoning behind WHY certain individuals from the black community seek other cultures ways of being as well as to ensure that if they decide to seek other cultures ways of being, it would be based on a conscious decision and not a trauma-based decision.

I think that is one reason with certain types of black people

it can sometimes come across as if they are talking AT the black community versus TO the black community.

Especially, with certain talking points.

I feel that bullying type situations also contribute to some black women seeking out other cultures in order to be accepted.

In, certain circumstances I can’t say I blame them.

However, in certain circumstances I can also see how certain cultures who have a predisposition of manipulation sees this scar and not just on some lying or Lion King stuff take advantage.

I have observed certain cultures attempting to use individual’s cultural scars for their own plots and plans.

I’ve also seen where a lot of times because the intentions were wrong from the start it caused the individual even more trauma.

Unfortunately, if you take on another cultures ways of being without first being yourself you also take on that cultures thought patterns which sometimes can be another course of confusion because those thought patterns are not truly your own.

It’s just a band-aid.

I think that is why for some people they get confused when the culture that they ran to cannot provide aide.

It then seems to be a pattern where now they once again feel alone and misunderstood.

I think that is one reason I love documentary’s so much is because it allows you to see through another individual’s lens..

Of course I think that even with certain documentary’s you still have to be mindful of the person on the other side of that lens who you invited to film your story.

I think when melanated individual’s stories are being told as well as filmed I think it is imperative that the melanated individual make sure that the individual they hired does not slip in a bias lens on a melanated individual’s story.

I think the reason some individual’s can’t work together on a project is truly because of creative differences.

I feel there really is something to the phrase “creative differences” especially if the individual is trying to project or create something without addressing thier underLYING issues.

You know that’s how some things can get distorted.

But back to College Hill….

I have to admit that seeing the joy on Stacey’s face when she was dancing with the beautiful HBCU dancers was a joy to see.

It was like even if just for a moment she was in her own element.

I also feel that in Stacey Dash’s own way she has impacted certain aspects of black culture as far as fashion and let’s not forget Stacey Dash was on a lot of posters and magazine covers.

She is a beautiful woman.

I saw a little of Stacey Dash’s fashion influence in one of Dream Doll’s outfits. Which by the way I thought both of her outfits (pink and green) were absolutely adorable.

So even when it’s all said and done there is a connection that is there between Stacey Dash and certain aspects of black culture.

We just have to continue to heal, learn as well as unlearn to get there.

In the words of Jada Kiss

“WE GONE MAKE IT”

Aaaaahaaaa….

Written and Conceived By:

DaSh’e

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On a healing side note:

I think it is also important that when it involves melanated women to make sure that if there is a difference in opinion that it is TRULY YOUR DIFFRENCE in opinion and not taking on an issue with another melanated woman because of certain types of males underlying issues they are not willing to first address within themselves.