Emotions Make You Cry Sometimes…

There are those that are still wondering why certain people are still talking about the Oscars.

I get it; it is so multi-layered and so much still to unpack because of certain types of impacts.

Sometimes in life if things are not initially addressed it will come back in another form or another scenario.

Sometimes both.

It’s very interesting to see how when certain events happen, if you allow yourself to, you begin to see how people truly feel.

I have had encounters as well as observed how certain cultures love to point fingers at Black Americans and speak on what “we” as Black Americans need to do, they act as if Black Americans are the scapegoats of society.

It’s amazing how certain outside cultures love to speak on Black communities and aspects of Black cultures and even publicly attempt to “chastise” Black Americans but never seem to address things within their own culture or community……. at least publicly.

Which, is one of many things I appreciate about the Black community, my people, my community and my culture we are not afraid to hold ourselves accountable even if that is through platforms, panel discussions, or speaking engagements.

I’ve observed that we are so willing to hold ourselves accountable we even invite other cultures sometimes the same one’s who have inflicted harm to sit in on the discussions to the point where they think they can lead the discussions.

Certain white people are so bold where they will come in to our discussions and engagements and take the information they have gathered and put thier name on it and go make money off of the intellectual property of melanated people. Hey ya’ll 🙂

Don’t believe me just watch….

I’ve even observed where there are some black people who will give tough love to themselves while giving other cultures unconditional love.

Of course with all things it’s important to have balance.

It is imperative to bring that back.

I think that is one of the many reasons when the broadcast scenario between Will Smith and Chris Rock took place it brought forth a lot of emotions and reactions.

Even, some words that were used were some of the same words that are used in stereotypes.

The words such as violent, maniac, arrest and their favorite buzzword hood.

The same “hood” that they don’t mind going to get the latest fashion ideas from among other things.

I know the word “hood” is another subject matter all in itself that should will be unpacked for another day.

However, it needed to be said.

But back to the initial subject matter.

As a woman that grew up in a black household.

I was not taught to hate a person based on their skin color.

For some people that grow up in different type of black households with different mindsets and feel that certain black people should stop “begging” for white people’s approval.

I would implore you to give the same type of compassion to black people that is given to white people.

You know the compassion that sounds like:

They are not all the same.

Maybe they meant….such-and-such.

Look at the content of their character.

Everybody not raised the same.

You don’t know what they are dealing with at home.

I would ask certain black people to also look at the perspective that maybe certain types of black people are not “begging” but going through a culture shock.

I feel that even though you can live within a country, you can still experience culture shock within your own country.

As I stated before I grew up in a black household where we were not taught to hate someone based on their skin color.

So, of course when I encountered those who did hate based on skin color it was a culture shock for me.

It was even more confusing because it seemed the only day certain white people took off was on Martin Luther King’s day.

As I get older, I’ve even begun to question is MLK day really a day of observance for Martin Luther King or is it a day for certain white people to observe all the bullshit they do.

It’s almost like they use Martin Luther King as a freeze word to stop people from beating they ass or holding them accountable.

I know it’s something to it because if MLK day is on the third Monday you can almost guarantee that white folks will start some bullshit at midnight that following Tuesday.

Bruno Mars said it best, “Don’t believe me just watch.”

We not even gone get on the freeze tag quote they love to gaslight people with….. that is “content” for another day.

At, one point in time for me after going through a dangerous life situation, I had to learn how to apply the advice that was given to me about my own people towards those who were from an outside culture who attempted to cause harm towards me.

You know the advice such as:

If they hit, you hit they ass back.

Don’t let nobody make a fool out of you.

When a person shows you who they are believe them.

That last piece of advice was a little confusing because I was having a hard time understanding why is it when it came to my people I wasn’t supposed to play no games and hold them accountable however, when it came to certain types of white people I was supposed to forgive.

What part of the game is that?

I guess that is why I give the side eye to the phrase “We Are ALL One “not the Maze ft Frankie Beverly,” We Are One”.

I do not need the ol’ skool squad to come at me…You know that Tropical Delight crowd that’s always dressed to the nines; they don’t play about Frankie Beverly N Maze..love ya’ll but that is how the ol’skool pronounce it…lol..For the longest I thought the group only had three members..lol

But, back to the subject matter.

Even though dealing with certain people can sometimes feel like a maze,

I’m learning how to feel and know the difference.

I can definitely feel the difference when Frankie sings it, when he sings it you can feel it comes from a place called the heart.

Not everybody has that.

Another way that I can tell the difference is by how their songs brings people together AUTHENTICALLY.

I’ve also noticed and learned that people that truly believe in “ALL” don’t have to say it they SHOW IT through their everyday actions and not in a way that is antagonizing to others.

For that, I am grateful…

I guess H-Town said it best, “Emotions can make you cry….. sometimes.”

Written and Conceived By:

DaSh’e

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